Live a Praying Life


I grew up in a praying family. From earliest childhood, I was encouraged to commit everything to God through prayer. Nothing was either too important or too insignificant to leave in God’s hands. My parents did not teach me about prayer with their words, but with their lives. They had more than “a prayer time”—a section of their days set aside for praying. Instead, prayer permeated and controlled every aspect of their lives.

Prayer, I later came to realize, can be an activity or it can be a life. You can think of it in terms of “my prayer life,” as you would say “my home life,” or “my work life”—as if prayer were one compartment among many.

But I knew that prayer as a task or an activity would not meet the deep yearning I had to know God. It was not a prayer life I wanted, but a praying life—a life of ongoing and continual interaction with God. Andrew Murray has said, “Answered prayer is the interchange of love between the Father and His child.” I want an uninterrupted flow of love between the Father and me. Isn’t that what you want? Isn’t your heart crying out for that?

When I became a young adult, I realized that a praying life was not built on information communicated from one person to another, but on a life-absorbing relationship with God.

You see, there is an undercurrent of prayer always active in a believer’s life. The Spirit of Christ is within you crying out, “Abba, Father” (Galatians 4:6). To put it in today’s language, He is calling out, “Daddy! Daddy!” The Spirit is always praying the Father’s will, and the Spirit is housed in you (Romans 8:9, 11, 15, 26–27, and 1 Corinthians 6:19). At some level, in every believer, prayer is always happening. The praying life is Christ. It is the life of Jesus Christ operating in you. The key to learning to live a praying life is this: learn how, more and more often, to tap into the undercurrent of prayer, the active presence of Jesus in you. Join your voice with His in harmonious prayer.

When I became a young adult, I realized that a praying life was not built on information communicated from one person to another, but on a life-absorbing relationship with God. I sensed the difference between a prayer life and a praying life, and I knew which one I craved. I knew that there was only One who could teach me to pray—who could be my Prayer Teacher. To Him I brought my inadequacy and my hungry heart. “Lord,” I cried, “I know how to say prayers, but I don’t know how to pray. Teach me to pray!”

In response to my heart’s cry to teach me deep truths about prayer, God began to open His Word to me in new ways. Familiar passages took on fresh meaning. Dull, dry passages pulsed with new life. I felt myself being “taught by the Lord” (Isaiah 54:13). To this day, some thirty years since I embarked on this soul-quest, it is still new. Each time I discover a concept, He brings me opportunities to put it to the test. The words of the Scriptures shape my life and define my experiences. Slowly but surely, He is building my life into a praying life.

As I submitted myself to God for instruction in prayer, He seemed to ask me, “Jennifer, why do you want to learn to pray?” I knew all the “right” answers, but they had a hollow, false ring to them. My experience must have been similar to Peter’s. How surprised he was when Jesus did not accept his glib answer to the question, “Peter, do you love Me?” Each time Jesus asked, Peter must have been forced to look deeper inside his heart for the true answer.

That is always God’s starting place—your truth. No matter how ugly your truth is, He can work from it. What He can’t work from is pretense. As He had with Peter, God peeled back the layers of my practiced, memorized, other people’s answers until my truth emerged. And my truth was not pretty. “Father, I want to know how to pray so that I will know how to get You to do what I want You to do when I want You to do it. I hope to learn how to make the best possible use of prayer for my benefit.”

Once I reached that point of honesty, I knew my course was set. God could work with me now because He could begin with my weakness. At the point of my weakness, His strength would be put on display. My Prayer Teacher could begin by teaching me a new purpose for prayer.

This book tells of my journey so far. But the journey never ends. Every single day I learn something new about prayer, or I learn something in a deeper way. It is my hope that when others read what I have learned and the inner changes that have occurred, they will be inspired to sit at the Master’s feet.


Q1: Think back to your childhood. What were your impressions of prayer? What part did it play in your life? Do you remember any experiences with prayer that helped define it for you, either positively or negatively?

Q2: Who was the first person whose life of prayer made an impression on you?

Q3: Who are the people in your life who have modeled a relationship with God that made you realize there was something deeper?

Q4: Write out your own heart’s cry to your Prayer Teacher. What is your prayer as you study Live a Praying Life?


How to Use This Book

You can use this book on your own, or you can join others who have the same desire to learn the deep truths about prayer. It is designed so that you work through the material over the course of 13 weeks. The material is divided into daily sections, five days for each week.

My goal is to cause you to handle the Scripture and to think through the points carefully. You will get the most benefit from this book if you leave behind what you have always thought of as the “right” or “acceptable” answers and be open to fresh truth. Let the Spirit of God energize and enlighten your reasoning ability. Think! Ask the hard questions. Don’t accept anything as truth except what is spoken in the whole Word of God.

In the first few lessons you may find that you are “unlearning” some false concepts. You may find that your prayer doctrine has been infiltrated with “prayer myths.” You may find this somewhat jarring or disorienting. But if you will stick with it, you will begin to put the pieces back together. You will see that subtle error has been robbing you of all the power available through prayer. You will find the whole truth, and prayer will make sense.

You see, I believe that God is calling us to become “prayer technicians.” Here’s what I mean: I am fairly proficient in using my computer—as long as it does what I thought it would do. But sometimes I push the right button and the wrong thing happens on the screen. I get messages like: “This program has performed an illegal operation and will be shut down,” or “A fatal error has occurred.” When I push the right button but the wrong thing happens, I’m at a loss. I don’t know where to go from there. I’m not a computer technician. I don’t understand a computer’s inner workings. The inner workings of a computer are “secret wisdom” to me.

In prayer, many of us have pushed the right button but the wrong thing happened. Since we have only learned the outward appearances and not the inner workings, we’re at a loss. But God wants to train us to be “prayer technicians.” He wants to reveal the “secret wisdom” (1 Corinthians 2:7), the inner workings of prayer.

As you work through the material, you will have the opportunity to process it in reflective and probing questions and interactive exercises. Sometimes the questions are designed to help you identify misconceptions that you hold. Some of the questions, I hope, will make you chuckle at yourself. Believe me, they are drawn from my own journey. I am often amused at my own earth-based thinking.

One of my goals in writing this book is to give you the opportunity to pray, not just think about prayer. So I have designed a section each day called “Practice a New Way of Praying.” These sections are daily prayer journal exercises. Each week we will use a different prayer jump start method. My hope is that you will begin to feel confident in praying and see how many, many forms prayer takes. At the beginning of each week’s material, I will give instructions about the week’s prayer journaling. At the end of each day’s material, you will find a prayer journaling section.

My Prayer for You

Prayer Teacher, thank You for awakening in this person a hunger for You. Spirit of prayer, You who know the mind of God, lead this one into all truth. Great and mighty God, You who invite us to approach You boldly and make audacious requests, grant this child of Yours a grand sense of adventure. Set this beloved one free from anything that would restrict him or her from joyous exploration of all the nooks and crannies, all the secret places, all the hidden riches of Your Kingdom. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.


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